The other day I was bringing lunch to a customer of mine. Usually I have it delivered, but on this day, they requested a local burger place that wasn’t set up for delivery. As I loaded the lunch in my car, I realized the 6 fountain drinks were going to cause me trouble. Top heavy and flimsy, the drinks looked almost “eager” to tip. Corner after corner, I drove timidly and very deliberate. I was already running late, but didn’t care. My objective wasn’t customer focus, make the sale, or go above and beyond. My objective was to NOT spill the drinks. As I was nearing their office, the driver of the car in front of me was spooked by a yellow light and slammed on his brakes. Normally, it’s not a big deal to come to a quick stop, but today was different. I was out of sorts and balancing something new. The drinks went sliding
across the floor of my car soaking my floor with Ice Tea.
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what living a balanced life looks like. Not the “business book” balanced life of “work-life balance” where you somehow are happy because you don’t work too much, but the appropriate balancing of the stuff that matters.
I discovered, for me, that living intentionally also means living for purpose and doing the things that matter.
This means having a clear vision on what my values mean to me. My values are clear and aligned to my living, rather than my living aligned to my values. As part of “faith” we go to church, but we would have done that anyway. Every week on our way to church, I have had a gnawing sense that we could be doing more to incorporate faith into our lives. Until recently, most of the time my values were “touched” in the way I lived my week, but that was mostly by chance. Mediocrity, however, is the only result we can expect from living by chance. Awesomeness comes from intentional living. Without clear direction, I was unbalanced in living my values, taking the “bumps” of life timidly and defensively trying not to stray too far. While I’ve been busy living the ins and outs of life, checking a lot of boxes, I was not clear on how to LIVE my values. I have discovered that to do this, I need clear specifics defining what those values look like in action. Faith goes beyond “living a Catholic life”, and drills down to “praying nightly, prayer before meals, mass every Sunday” and much more. With this I am able to intentionally pull specifics and plug into my weekly planning and measure my accomplishments against. Instead of the careful balancing act of chance, I am able to aggressively incorporate the stuff that makes my values real and a part of the life i’m living intentionally.
How do you stay balanced and live an awesome value centered life?
Rocco De Leo